I’ve been working for a long time and been a mom my whole adult life, it seems. So last year when I got laid off I was left with a sense of I don’t know what to do with myself, you know? Eventually I fell into a routine of kids and house, then added school and working out. But I made sure that no matter what I did with my hours I still showered and put myself together. Some may think make up, hair and perfume is a waste of costly cosmetics for a SAHM, but not me. Its a part of who I am and something I won’t change.
Mister and I are going on twelve years together, this year, and in those years I can probably count how many times he’s seen me spend a day not fixed up (the birth of our first child, not the birth of #2 b/c I made sure I had make up w/me at the hospital, a couple of flu’s and a major birthday hangover or two over the years).
Now that I’m home I still get up in the 5′oclock hour to enjoy cofee, quietly, and check email before the kids get up and off to school. I clean, cook, do laundry and still shower then put myself together because my mom taught me You never know. That means You never know if he’s going to say Hey, lets go grab lunch or a movie before the kids get home. Or You never know if someone will stop by unexpectedly. You just never know.
I’m happy to say that those rare occasions I don’t do hair and make up my family will ask me if I feel alright because its something they’re just not use to. And its ok with me!
Today, for example, Mister went to work at 6am so I got up as he was leaving, I drank coffee, surfed the ‘net then started house cleaning. I did ALL our laundry yesterday and when I was done cleaning floors, by 9am, I got dressed and hit the treadmill for 2 miles, showered and put myself together. Then proceeded to start dinner. After that it was dusting and vaccuming the living room, and guess what? Five minutes later Mister drove up to clean kids, house, wife dinner done and we popped open a bottle of wine and relaxed, after I dropped the kids off at their friends house for a few hours.
So just because I stay home with my kids doesn’t give me the pass to look like a stinkin’ slob. I feel better about myself and I can see Mister is a happy camper, too. 
This is me, who I’ve always been but I just know that because I’m home and have more time on my hands doesn’t mean its ok to be a slob, just because I’m married.
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January 8, 2009 at 6:10pm
Carrie
I admit that I am a slob. I’m a jeans and t-shirt girl that doesn’t like makeup or curling irons. Adam’s known me since I was 14 so he doesn’t think twice about it. He does get shocked when I do dress up but that just gets me more attention.LOL
January 8, 2009 at 8:53pm
Amie
Awe suga…
I know how you feel…
except at my house I have 31 YR OLD kid AND A 13 yrs old.kid, I stay at home too..
Boy I love them boys…they go play football and I do girl stuff like watch tv. We all have things to be proud of and we are more that being just mothers…I have missed you!!1
January 9, 2009 at 12:59am
auntiegwen
I am a huge contast, all suited, booted and made up for work, gussied up to the nines when I get to see himself and the rest of the time in Pyjamas !
January 9, 2009 at 4:56am
Flyinfox_SATX
Having pride in ones appearance is a very good quality to have. I commend you for sticking to your guns on this issue and I agree with you.
Besides, you are a babe to begin with, so it only gets better. I can’t blame Mister for smiling the way I think he does…..
January 9, 2009 at 6:23am
Beej
I did the same thing when I wasn’t working. On Saturdays and Sundays I might not wear make up when I know that we’re going to be working on the boat or on the house. But I only wear eye shadow, mascara and lipstick anyway. And I could always throw on a little lipstick if need be.
For me it’s a bigger deal to not wear my watch. I’ve been trying, lately, not to wear my watch on the weekends. But then I am constantly asking him “What time is it? What time is it? What time is it?”
January 9, 2009 at 9:40am
Aimee
That is so June Cleaver of you! hee. I barely make myself up to go to work. ha!
Hey, are you doing the Valentine’s swap? Craze mentioned she thought you were but I never heard from ya.
January 9, 2009 at 4:30pm
Lori
Oh I’ve spent many a day where I didn’t shower or put on makeup. I’m pretty sure I’d be a slob if I didn’t have a job, which is why I plan to always work. However, I could NEVER leave the house like that. Even if I’m just running to the store for milk I have to be dressed and have my make up on.
January 9, 2009 at 4:52pm
Nikki
Wow! I am a slob, I admit. I never have enough time in the day it seems. I am impressed that you are able to keep up. A shower is almost a luxury these days, it seems.
January 10, 2009 at 10:21am
Heidi
My level of being put together depends on the day and my mood. I usually always take a shower and do my hair when I’m home, but I may be hanging out in my pajamas if there are no plans of me going anywhere during the day. Like today for example
During the summer when I’m not working I usually do get dressed and wear at least a little makeup (usually foundation and powder) because, like you said, you just never know what’s going to happen.
January 11, 2009 at 10:16am
beth
you go with your bad self!!!
Me? I wear pj’s until I have to go somewhere!!!!