02.07.08
You know what pisses me off?
When I see parents of “gang bangers” crying on television, calling themselves victims and pleading for the gang violence to end.
This morning I saw a mother and father crying, on television, because a week ago their adult gang banger son was killed. They feel they are now victims of this nonsense. Fine, I get where she’s coming from and my heart goes out to her on a parental level. BUT why wasn’t she crying on television and pleading for this gang violence to end two or three weeks ago? Was it not as important then because her son was alive?
Another thing, how can they plead and ask for this shit to end when they damn well KNEW their son was a gang member? Doesn’t education begin in the home? I know. I know. He’s an adult. She probably couldn’t talk to him about it. Blah blah blah.
I’m just annoyed to see her crying and tossing out victimwhen it makes me wonder just how many people her adult gang member son has victimized over the life of his gang banging career? Because we all know that adult bangers don’t usually begin/join as adults. No. They usually get involved as children/teens. So he’s been doing this for awhile.
Am I a heartless person? Nah. I don’t think so. I feel that growing up in L.A. has given me a certain level of thinking/feeling because we see things like this more often than some of you do. I hate to see a young adult lose their life, but that could have totally been prevented. And because of that, I don’t feel sorry for him. That is also my view of drug addicts, but don’t get me started on that topic!
Angie said,
February 7, 2008 at 7:43am
I couldn’t agree more! We see the same things on the news in Minneapolis. They know what their damn kids are doing and it’s not an issue until it’s THEM on the other end of the gun, knife, whatever.
Pisses me off too. The best is when they try to sue someone over their kids ‘wrongful’ death – love that.
Chris said,
February 7, 2008 at 9:35am
I don’t think you are heartless….I see your point…why don’t parents get involved BEFORE something terrible happens.
Carrie said,
February 7, 2008 at 9:45am
That is why I love California law. 3 strikes your ass is out. Here, they just keep throwing them in prison and out they go. (repeat this many times)
Laurel said,
February 7, 2008 at 11:19am
I totally agree with you. You have to think that if more parents wised up before their kid was on the receiving end of violence, something could be done!
Sue said,
February 7, 2008 at 11:37am
It definitely gets sickening, doesn’t it? I’m with you on this.
Flyinfox_SATX said,
February 7, 2008 at 12:25pm
Its Scary, the amount of bullshit parenting I see now a days. Makes me look back and appreciate when my old man was hard on me. Gave me discipline. Taught me right from wrong and more importantly, taught me to do my best to avoid the drama.
Yeah, I am with you on this post.
Flyinfox_SATX
Kevin said,
February 7, 2008 at 1:20pm
I’m so with you on this. Almost nightly, I see a news story of some guy who killed a mom, stole her car, threw the crying baby out of the window into a cement mixer, careened out of control through an outdoor cafe and then make a run for it while holding 8 pounds of blow…only to be shot by police after unloading the magazine of an AR-15 Assault Rifle. Then the mom says, “Why did they have to shoot my boy?”
Damn. Fuck! DamnFuck!
Craze said,
February 7, 2008 at 3:32pm
You aren’t heartless, I totally agree.
Heidi said,
February 7, 2008 at 8:40pm
I totally agree with you. If these “victims” would have spoken up sooner there would be a lot less people getting hurt and this gang issue would become less prominent.
Beth said,
February 8, 2008 at 7:20am
I don’t think you’re heartless at all….you have a fantastic view point. She was still a “victim” when her son was out there bangin…no difference now. and I get the thing that her kid is dead…that hurts anyone,…BUT what about the parents of HIS victims?!!!
Lael said,
February 8, 2008 at 10:15am
I agree with you completely!!!
gino said,
February 9, 2008 at 12:31am
A-fucking-MEN!
i grew up in gardena. you’d be suprised(I guess you wouldnt) all the parents who blamed everybody else’s gangbanger kid for ruining the ‘hood instead of looking at their own kid, the clothes he wears, the ‘homies’ he hangs out with,the tats on his neck, his ghetto-walk, his slang speech… but ‘No, he’s a good boy. A nice son. Give me no trouble’
Yeah, no trouble *at home*. but he was stealing his nieghbor’s bikes when he was 10 and bullying the other little kids at the park when he was 8.
Now, he’s 18, in jail for rape and drugs.
But he’s a ‘good boy’ and ‘no trouble at home’.
Lindsey said,
February 9, 2008 at 5:18pm
I agree with you!!!! It’s not that we have heartless views on this stuff, in fact, quite the opposite. Education does begin at home.
Dixie said,
February 10, 2008 at 9:06am
Amen sistah! I could not agree more!!
Bittersweet Confusion said,
February 11, 2008 at 7:19am
I totally agree. Same here in NYC… I love how they call them “Good Boys” like they are totally blind to what they really were…