I’ve been a Mom for almost 9 years now. That means that sometimes (ok most of the time) I have to put my own needs and wants second and third. Right now Mister is working nights and will be until December. That means its up to me to get the kids fed, entertained, bathed, bedded and whatever else home demands in between. I think I do a pretty good job at it, if I do say so myself. Yeah, my floors need a quick mopping but at least we’ve got a cabinet filled with toilet paper and the kids have clean clothes…wait…no they don’t I need to do their laundry tonight. Scratch that.
Anyway, being Mom means that I don’t get to sit down and watch any television program, uninterrupted, before 10:30 pm. I don’t get to sit and read for hours like I use to. I’m sure there are a lot of Mom’s who know exactly what I’m talking about.
Well, yesterday afternoon my sister called me to ask if she and her boyfriend can take my girls with them to the movies. Uh, dumb question. HELL YEAH you can take my kids! And the best part? The movie didn’t start until 6:30 but they were leaving at 5:30. That means the little devils darlings were gone before I got home at 5:45. But wait! That’s still not the best part! Ha! The best part was they went to see the new Harry Potter movie! You know what that meant, right? Their little asses weren’t going to be home until almost 10:30!!!
Being alone I took advantage of the time. I put away the groceries Mister didn’t put away. I sat online for a bit. I grilled myself some chicken and made a beautiful salad. I sat and watched Big Love, uninterrupted. I did two loads of laundry. I folded and put away said loads of laundry. I straightened up our room and then I sat and read for almost TWO hours! Can you believe that shit?!
There were a few minutes when I found myself wandering aimlessly though our tiny house looking for stuff to do. I’m not use to actually having time to myself. Or I should say that much time to myself. It was weird and wonderful at the same time.
The kids got home around 10:15 and I have to say I missed them. Cece’s house was back to normal with the noise of bickering children and the sight of shoes and socks in the middle of the living room. Ahhh, I wouldn’t change it for the world.
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July 31, 2007 at 10:26pm
Christina_the_wench
You’re sick, you know that right? A few hours and you miss them already? Oh honey, we need to work on that! hehe
Amazing how we adapt to no ‘me’ time over the years.
July 31, 2007 at 10:52pm
Carrie
I am going to have a hard lesson to learn.
Do the girls have a bed time?
July 31, 2007 at 11:40pm
Cece
Christina, I know I’m sick. I don’t think it was so much of “missing” them, I think I just had more time on my hands than I’m use to & got bored! lol
Carrie, yes, they go to bed at 9pm, but right now they’re on summer break & Drama Queen goes to bed whenever, mostly between 10-10:30 but we’re going to start changing that b/c they start school in 16 days. And I’ve got to work on them getting up early too, now.
What hard lesson to learn?
July 31, 2007 at 11:45pm
Willow
Glad you got to enjoy a little time alone! I don’t have kids, and I can’t seem to find the time to do all I want too:)
July 31, 2007 at 11:57pm
Craze
I know EXACTLY what you mean. I can enjoy “me” time without Jacob for about a day. After that if he’s still gone I almost go insane and have to start inviting people over.
August 1, 2007 at 12:27am
L Sass
I’m glad you got a little break. Your evening sounds divine!
August 1, 2007 at 3:21am
Frazzled Farm Wife
I am going through some of that right now. Both of my kids are in High School and I have been a stay-at-home mom for many years. They don’t need me near as much (so they keep telling me) and I am trying to remember that. I do help on the farm too but occasionally I have some down time and am wondering what to do with that time. ME time just sounds selfish but I am trying to find out what exactly what I want to do with ME time. Let the “selfishness” begin!
August 1, 2007 at 6:58am
Cece
Willow, enjoy your kid-free life to the fullest. Seriously.
Craze, I know you know.
Sass, it was wonderful. Right now I’m sitting in the dinning room & I can hear them screaming & playing outside. Its frazzling music to my ears. Very weird. lol
Frazzled, I have an aunt that went though that and man was it hard on her. Her only child not only graduated, got a car & a job but a boyfriend a baby & an apartment! She had so much time on her hands and I think it began to depress her. She recovered & finally got a life, you will too! lol {{hugs}}
August 1, 2007 at 6:19pm
Dixie
Oh girl, do I ever know what you are talking about. But I’m the same way when they aren’t there. I wander around like a little lost puppy looking for it’s mommy.
August 1, 2007 at 7:30pm
Jenny!
I have the same problem, with nothing to clean and what not…I just lay on my couch!
August 1, 2007 at 9:47pm
Augs Casa
oh man, that is SO the opposite of me. I am trying to find alone time. Come babysit my two toddlers. And don’t Vatolize them either!
August 1, 2007 at 9:58pm
The "Mind"
So you wouldn’t know what to do with yourself for a whole weekend, huh?
August 1, 2007 at 10:16pm
Carrie
Being a mom. I’m totally all about me and Adam. I can imagine having another person to think about.
August 1, 2007 at 11:16pm
Samantha_K
I never know what to do when the boys are overnight somewhere…I do a lot of the aimless wandering. Hopefully I’ll have someone to help me fill the time soon…
August 2, 2007 at 1:38am
Lindsey
I know I want kids, but I don’t know if I’m cut out for it. I like my alone time, but frankly, I don’t get much of it living with Edgar. I’m not complaining, I just miss having a few quiet uninterrupted hours to myself.
August 2, 2007 at 7:15am
BOSSY
Bossy remembers Time. She thinks…
August 2, 2007 at 10:12am
Ann(ie)
I haven’t been a mom for very long, but I crave the time alone and then cannot wait until they return once I get it!!
August 2, 2007 at 5:03pm
Jen
I think we all need breaks like that. We went on our weekend trip with friends this past week and we missed the kids desperately. We ache for privacy and time alone but miss them like crazy when they are gone its called guilt and being a mom in the dictionary….LOL.
August 2, 2007 at 6:59pm
Beth
I have to say that reading this was really enlightening for me. I don’t have kids and when I get home, all I want to is be lazy. Watch TV, read, dick around on the computer. All those things you said you can’t do anymore.
Which further leads me to believe that the childless path Matt and I are on might still be the right one.
August 2, 2007 at 7:50pm
Cece
Dixie, I know the lost puppy feeling. Pathetic. lol
Jenny, laying around on the couch seems foreign to me!
Augs, my hands are full right now but I’ll get back to you when I’ve got free time. *did you pick up on that joke? lol*
Mind, for a whole weekend I’ll hop on a plane, not sit around my house. Der! LMAO
Carrie, its not easy. But to me its totally worth it.
Samantha, good luck to you!
Lindsey, I think you’d be a great mom.
Bossy, concentrate. I’m sure you can remember those times.
Annie, there are times when I feel guilty for craving the alone time.
Jen, we do need breaks. Every few months my husband & I try to get away for a weekend alone for that reason. When we come back we’re rested, back on track & ready to deal with life as parents, again.
Beth, I know you’d make a WONDERFUL mother. But I give YOU props for recognizing. Love you!