Last night, while preparing dinner, Mister and I were bullshitting. I’m not sure where the topic came from but he was laughing and telling me a story about the other supervisor at his job.
He was telling me that the guy is married and is/was fooling around with a female employee. He proceeded to tell me, specifically, of one night when this guy called Mister and said he was going to be late for work that he had a personal going on at the moment. Mister thought nothing of it and just went in earlier.
Then the guy calls back and tells him he’s not going to come in at all, due to the same personal problem. Mister is thinking What sort of problem can you have at 4am?
The next morning when the guy shows up for work Mister asked him What happened to you yesterday? He said the guy sort of smiled, laughed and shrugged. Mister says to him You got caught, didn’t you?
Come to find out when this guy got to work his wife and girlfriend were outside waiting for him. Yeah he got busted alright, but the thing is he was with another woman!
Mister was laughing, shaking his head and said to me That fucker is crazy.
I didn’t find the humor in it. Actually, I was rather disgusted by the man. All I said to Mister was I hope I don’t have to start driving to your job at 4am and check up on your ass! Lucky for him he said the right words, No, baby, you don’t have to check up on me I’m not stupid like that guy!
But I got to thinking, when did I change? When did something like this turn my stomach? When I was 23 and single I was one of those girls, that’s how I met and hooked up with Mister! I find cheating disgusting and selfish. Personally, I would rather have Mister leave me than humiliate me, and my family, by cheating on me.
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June 27, 2007 at 4:57pm
The "Mind"
You’ve just matured is all. You have a wonderful family and know the value of it.
But at the same time, not everyone has what you have and so they see it as they don’t have a lot to lose.
And there are just dogs. That guy, is a dog!
June 27, 2007 at 5:13pm
mom of 2
I find cheating disgusting and just about the most selfish thing a married person can do. It’s even more disgusting if there are children involved. Not only is the person cheating on their spouse, but their kids as well!
I agree with the mind…that guy is a DOG!
June 27, 2007 at 6:15pm
Christina_the_wench
They say men cannot be monogomous. I disagree. But then I hear of stories like this one…. sad.
June 27, 2007 at 6:54pm
Jenny!
I agree…it is disgusting! What a scum bag!
June 27, 2007 at 7:42pm
Ms.L
Yep,I’m with you on every point!
June 27, 2007 at 8:12pm
Craze
You grew up Chica!
Amen to this: I would rather have Mister leave me than humiliate me, and my family, by cheating on me.
June 27, 2007 at 9:08pm
Gypsy
Yep, that’s a little thing called adulthood. You start to recognize consequences and think of people other than yourself.
June 27, 2007 at 9:30pm
Carrie
Shit happens. Mister was yours. He just was in the wrong spot when that went down. Don’t sweat it. You can tell that you are his soul mate.
Dirty dirty dog.
June 27, 2007 at 11:52pm
L Sass
I’d also rather get a break up call than be cheated on. It would just kill my pride!
I’ll bet your point of view changed when you had a relationship–and a family–worth defending!
June 28, 2007 at 12:06am
Cece
Mind, I’m sure that’s what it is, maturity. And that guy is beyond a dog. Ugh.
Mo2, I feel sorry for their teenage kids b/c I’m sure they’re well aware of what’s going on now.
Christina, I think men can be monogomous. But they’ve got to be happy to do so. IMO.
Jenny, I hate that too! Ugh get some pride, woman! Don’t put up with shit.
MsL, I’m not surprised.
Craze, actually Mister & I made an agreement YEARS ago, we agreed/promised each other that if we’re ever not happy then we promise to come to the other & be honest rather than cheat our partner. That way we can either try to work it out or split the right way. Cheating doesn’t solve anything.
Gypsy, it feels good to think of others now.
Carrie, you’re so sweet. But I doubt his exwife would agree! lol
Sass, you’ve nailed it. I’ve got a life worth defending alright.
June 28, 2007 at 3:46am
Dixie
Yeah, that’s not cool at all.
June 28, 2007 at 4:22am
Jen
I think as we grow and have children together and a family things start to mean more. To some men/women the temptation is just there. If Scott ever cheated on me I think I would totally fall apart. You know everything we have built as a family destroyed over a piece of ass. I think your morals just mature. I’m glad it made you mad…….it makes me mad too it just shows us that we cherish what we have….and nobody better fuck with it…..excuse my language. Smile.
June 28, 2007 at 4:24am
Sassy Momma
You’ve definitely matured!
Cheating is something I do not overlook and have lost a few friends because they chose to bring that lifestyle to their family.
June 28, 2007 at 8:50am
shell
ugh. what a pig. cheating on one person is bad enough, but to go so low and cheat on two people….there is no self respect in that whatsoever.
it is crazy how we grow up and how our views on things begin to change with our experiences. i have definitely been there before, but firm in believing that i am not going there again.
June 28, 2007 at 7:01pm
Willow
It’s unfortunately men like that which give the rest a bad name. I have had sooo many married men come on to me, that I tend to want to lump them all in the dog category. I don’t because I know there are good ones out there. However, I will never feel good about letting my SO go to a bar without me, because of what I’ve experienced.
June 30, 2007 at 6:05am
Lindsey
Cheating is gross and I’m with you, humiliating. I’d also rather have him just leave me than cheat on me.
July 1, 2007 at 8:45am
KaraMia
that’s what happens when you grow up and realize the world doesn’t revolve around you. People that cheat think only of their wants and needs…most of us tend to think of others first.